Have you found your TRIBE yet?

One of the best things of starting walkyourstroy is I wake up excited to embrace the day. (some mornings are more exciting than the others if you know what I mean). I still consider that as an improvement for myself. If the weather is nice, I push myself to go for a walk.

There is a small walking track and a dog park near where I live. In my walkyourstroy yesterday, I stumbled upon a flock of Sulphur crested cockatoos (yes, I looked them up on Google), beautiful white birds with a yellow crest on the back of their heads. They were peacefully feeding on the grass near the walking track and eyed me suspiciously when I walked pass them. I have seen them everywhere over the past few weeks. I am sure many of you may have seen them too, with their gorgeous white feathers and high-pitched shirking noise, fighting among themselves, playing havoc on fruit trees. But the beauty is, they are together all the time.  

Recently, I had a moment that forced me to pause and think. Think about where I am? where am I going and who is in my corner? Then I realised, I have an amazing bunch of people in my life; my family, friends, co-workers who became friends, people I met and those who walked that extra mile for me. I love them dearly. I am where I am today because of them. But life is such it throws curve balls at us sometimes. Especially when you feel that you are expanding your horizons, exploring new possibilities in life. For example, if you are moving to a new county or a new suburb, sharing accommodation, starting a new job, walking in or out of a relationship, these situations come with new people, new possibilities and also with new issues to resolve. In these moments, sometimes you hear that still small voice in you, calling, nudging, asking, who is in your corner? Who is your tribe?

Finding friendships, connections and relationships that nurture us can be tricky at times.  Mainly because, we live in a fast-paced society, we are connected to the world more than ever before and all of us are busy living life. So, we evolve, our expectations change, we move to places often. Slowly but surely the relationships and friendships we have change as well.  Sometimes they evolve with us. But sometimes, they take a different path. You may have a bunch of amazing people in your life right now, or you may be looking for your tribe. Either way it is good to do a rain check time to time and see who is actually in our corner.

When I first moved to Down Under, I remember, I struggled to find my tribe. Interestingly though, With all my best intentions and efforts to connect with people, it felt like they already have their people in their corners, and I wasn’t a part of it. Don’t get me wrong, I met great people, who were so kind to me, helped me and accepted me for who I am. But it took me a while to realise I was looking for similar connections that I left back home. when you are in a new juncture, it takes time to make connections and lasting friendships. That realisation made me abandon my quest to find my tribe (that I was on, so desperately back then) and instead, I started living life.

 In retrospect, I just lived life, found work, found accommodation, improved my skills, enjoyed travelling alone. It wasn’t easy, but it was fun, and guess what? my tribe found me! They slowly came into my life and after many, many years some of them are still there. I am so blessed to have them in my life.

So, if you are at a juncture right now, looking for your tribe, I suggest, take a step back and relax. Spend your time and energy to become more of who you are, living true to your values and beliefs; it will open up a path to connect with likeminded people. I think more we align with our highest yourselves, we attract people who share the same energy, the same life frequency and expectations as us.

Simply put if you try and be your authentic self, be kind to yourself and others, and most importantly do what you love to do, live your life and let your light shine bright in the world, your tribe; your people those who really like to be in your corner, will come and find you.

So, my friend, have you found your TRIBE yet? xoxo

White Cockatoos